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Space - Dr. C. George Boeree - I would
like to introduce Alfred Adler by talking about someone Adler
never knew:
Theodore Roosevelt. Born to Martha and Theodore Senior in
Manhattan on October 27, 1858, he was said to be a particularly
beautiful baby who needed no help entering his new world. His
parents were strong, intelligent, handsome, and quite well-to-do.
It should have been an idyllic childhood
But "Teedie," as he was called, was not as healthy as he first
appeared. He had severe asthma, and tended to catch colds easily,
develop coughs and fevers, and suffer from nausea and diarrhea.
He was small and thin. His voice was reedy, and remained so even
in adulthood. He became malnourished and was often forced by his
asthma to sleep sitting up in chairs. Several times, he came
dangerously close to dying from lack of oxygen.
Not to paint too negative a picture, Teedie was an active boy --
some would say over-active -- and had a fantastic personality.
He was full of curiosity about nature and would lead expeditions
of cousins to find mice, squirrels, snakes, frogs, and anything
else that could be dissected or pickled. His repeated
confinement when his asthma flared up turned him to books, which
he devoured throughout his life. He may have been sickly, but he
certainly had a desire to live!
After traveling through Europe with his family, his health
became worse. He had grown taller but no more muscular. Finally,
with encouragement from the family doctor, Roosevelt Senior
encouraged the boy, now twelve, to begin lifting weights. Like
anything else he tackled, he did this enthusiastically. He got
healthier, and for the first time in his life got through a
whole month without an attack of asthma.
When he was thirteen, he became aware of another defect of his:
When he found that he couldn't hit anything with the rifle his
father had given him. When friends read a billboard to him -- he
didn't realize it had writing on it -- it was discovered that he
was terribly nearsighted!
In the same year, he was sent off to the country on his own
after a bad attack of asthma. On the way, he was waylaid by a
couple of other boys his own age. He found that not only
couldn't he defend himself, he couldn't even lay a hand on them.
He later announced to his father his intention to learn to box.
By the time he went to Harvard, he was not only a healthier
Teddy Roosevelt, but was a regular winner of a variety of
athletic contests.
The rest, as they say, is history. "Teedie" Roosevelt went on to
become a successful New York assemblyman, North Dakota cowboy,
New York commissioner of police, Assistant secretary of the Navy,
lieutenant colonel of the "Rough Riders," the Governor of New
York, and best-selling author, all by the age of forty. With the
death of President William McKinley in 1901, Theodore Roosevelt
became the youngest president of the United States.
How is it that someone so sickly should become so healthy,
vigorous, and successful? Why is it that some children, sickly
or not, thrive, while others wither away? Is the drive that
Roosevelt had peculiar to him, or is it something that lies in
each of us? These kinds of questions intrigued a young Viennese
physician named Alfred Adler, and led him to develop his theory,
called Individual Psychology.
Biography
Alfred Adler was born in the suburbs of Vienna on February 7,
1870, the third child, second son, of a Jewish grain merchant
and his wife. As a child, Alfred developed rickets, which kept
him from walking until he was four years old. At five, he nearly
died of pneumonia. It was at this age that he decided to be a
physician.
Alfred was an average student and preferred playing outdoors to
being cooped up in school. He was quite outgoing, popular, and
active, and was known for his efforts at outdoing his older
brother, Sigmund.
He received a medical degree from the University of Vienna in
1895. During his college years, he became attached to a group of
socialist students, among which he found his wife-to-be, Raissa
Timofeyewna Epstein. She was an intellectual and social activist
who had come from Russia to study in Vienna. They married in
1897 and eventually had four children, two of whom became
psychiatrists.
He began his medical career as an opthamologist, but he soon
switched to general practice, and established his office in a
lower-class part of Vienna, across from the Prater, a
combination amusement park and circus. His clients included
circus people, and it has been suggested (Furtmuller, 1965) that
the unusual strengths and weaknesses of the performers led to
his insights into organ inferiorities and compensation.
He then turned to psychiatry, and in 1907 was invited to join
Freud's discussion group. After writing papers on organic
inferiority, which were quite compatible with Freud's views, he
wrote, first, a paper concerning an aggression instinct, which
Freud did not approve of, and then a paper on children's
feelings of inferiority, which suggested that Freud's sexual
notions be taken more metaphorically than literally.
Although Freud named Adler the president of the Viennese
Analytic Society and the co-editor of the organization's
newsletter, Adler didn't stop his criticism. A debate between
Adler's supporters and Freud's was arranged, but it resulted in
Adler, with nine other members of the organization, resigning to
form the Society for Free Psychoanalysis in 1911. This
organization became The Society for Individual Psychology in the
following year.
During World War I, Adler served as a physician in the Austrian
Army, first on the Russian front, and later in a children's
hospital. He saw first hand the damage that war does, and his
thought turned increasingly to he concept of social interest. He
felt that if humanity was to survive, it had to change its ways!
After the war, he was involved in various projects, including
clinics attached to state schools and the training of teachers.
In 1926, he went to the United States to lecture, and he
eventually accepted a visiting position at the Long Island
College of Medicine. In 1934, he and his family left Vienna
forever. On May 28, 1937, during a series of lectures at
Aberdeen University, he died of a heart attack.
Theory
Alfred Adler postulates a single "drive" or motivating force
behind all our behavior and experience. By the time his theory
had gelled into its most mature form, he called that motivating
force the striving for perfection. It is the desire we all have
to fulfill our potentials, to come closer and closer to our
ideal. It is, as many of you will already see, very similar to
the more popular idea of self-actualization.
"Perfection" and "ideal" are troublesome words, though. On the
one hand, they are very positive goals. Shouldn't we all be
striving for the ideal? And yet, in psychology, they are often
given a rather negative connotation. Perfection and ideals are,
practically by definition, things you can't reach. Many people,
in fact, live very sad and painful lives trying to be perfect!
As you will see, other theorists, like Karen Horney and Carl
Rogers, emphasize this problem. Adler talks about it, too. But
he sees this negative kind of idealism as a perversion of the
more positive understanding. We will return to this in a little
while.
Striving for perfection was not the first phrase Adler used to
refer to his single motivating force. His earliest phrase was
the aggression drive, referring to the reaction we have when
other drives, such as our need to eat, be sexually satisfied,
get things done, or be loved, are frustrated. It might be better
called the assertiveness drive, since we tend to think of
aggression as physical and negative. But it was Adler's idea of
the aggression drive that first caused friction between him and
Freud. Freud was afraid that it would detract from the crucial
position of the sex drive in psychoanalytic theory. Despite
Freud's dislike for the idea, he himself introduced something
very similar much later in his life: the death instinct.
Another word Adler used to refer to basic motivation was
compensation, or striving to overcome. Since we all have
problems, short-comings, inferiorities of one sort or another,
Adler felt, earlier in his writing, that our personalities could
be accounted for by the ways in which we do -- or don't --
compensate or overcome those problems. The idea still plays an
important role in his theory, as you will see, but he rejected
it as a label for the basic motive because it makes it sound as
if it is your problems that cause you to be what you are.
One of Adler's earliest phrases was masculine protest. He noted
something pretty obvious in his culture (and by no means absent
from our own): Boys were held in higher esteem than girls. Boys
wanted, often desperately, to be thought of as strong,
aggressive, in control -- i.e. "masculine" -- and not weak,
passive, or dependent -- i.e. "feminine." The point, of course,
was that men are somehow basically better than women. They do,
after all, have the power, the education, and apparently the
talent and motivation needed to do "great things," and women
don't.
You can still hear this in the kinds of comments older people
make about little boys and girls: If a baby boy fusses or
demands to have his own way (masculine protest!), they will say
he's a natural boy; If a little girl is quiet and shy, she is
praised for her femininity; If, on the other hand, the boy is
quiet and shy, they worry that he might grow up to be a sissy;
Or if a girl is assertive and gets her way, they call her a "tomboy"
and will try to reassure you that she'll grow out of it!
But Adler did not see men's assertiveness and success in the
world as due to some innate superiority. He saw it as a
reflection of the fact that boys are encouraged to be assertive
in life, and girls are discouraged. Both boys and girls, however,
begin life with the capacity for "protest!" Because so many
people misunderstood him to mean that men are, innately, more
assertive, lead him to limit his use of the phrase.
The last phrase he used, before switching to striving for
perfection, was striving for superiority. His use of this phrase
reflects one of the philosophical roots of his ideas: Friederich
Nietzsche developed a philosophy that considered the will to
power the basic motive of human life. Although striving for
superiority does refer to the desire to be better, it also
contains the idea that we want to be better than others, rather
than better in our own right. Adler later tended to use striving
for superiority more in reference to unhealthy or neurotic
striving.
Life style
A lot of this playing with words reflects Adler's groping
towards a really different kind of personality theory than that
represented by Freud's. Freud' theory was what we nowadays would
call a reductionistic one: He tried most of his life to get the
concepts down to the physiological level. although he admitted
failure in the end, life is nevertheless explained in terms of
basic physiological needs. In addition, Freud tended to "carve
up" the person into smaller theoretical concepts -- the id, ego,
and superego -- as well.
Adler was influenced by the writings of Jan Smuts, the South
African philosopher and statesman. Smuts felt that, in order to
understand people, we have to understand them more as unified
wholes than as a collection of bits and pieces, and we have to
understand them in the context of their environment, both
physical and social. This approach is called holism, and Adler
took it very much to heart.
First, to reflect the idea that we should see people as wholes
rather than parts, he decided to label his approach to
psychology individual psychology. The word individual means
literally "un-divided."
Second, instead of talking about a person's personality, with
the traditional sense of internal traits, structures, dynamics,
conflicts, and so on, he preferred to talk about style of life (nowadays,
"lifestyle"). Life style refers to how you live your life, how
you handle problems and interpersonal relations. Here's what he
himself had to say about it: "The style of life of a tree is the
individuality of a tree expressing itself and molding itself in
an environment. We recognize a style when we see it against a
background of an environment different from what we expect, for
then we realize that every tree has a life pattern and is not
merely a mechanical reaction to the environment."
Teleology
The last point -- that lifestyle is "not merely a mechanical
reaction" -- is a second way in which Adler differs dramatically
from Freud. For Freud, the things that happened in the past,
such as early childhood trauma, determine what you are like in
the present. Adler sees motivation as a matter of moving towards
the future, rather than being driven, mechanistically, by the
past. We are drawn towards our goals, our purposes, our ideals.
This is called teleology.
Moving things from the past into the future has some dramatic
effects. Since the future is not here yet, a teleological
approach to motivation takes the necessity out of things. In a
traditional mechanistic approach, cause leads to effect: If a,
b, and c happen, then x, y, and z must, of necessity, happen.
But you don't have to reach your goals or meet your ideals, and
they can change along the way. Teleology acknowledges that life
is hard and uncertain, but it always has room for change!
Another major influence on Adler's thinking was the philosopher
Hans Vaihinger, who wrote a book called The Philosophy of "As If."
Vaihinger believed that ultimate truth would always be beyond us,
but that, for practical purposes, we need to create partial
truths. His main interest was science, so he gave as examples
such partial truths as protons an electrons, waves of light,
gravity as distortion of space, and so on. Contrary to what many
of us non-scientists tend to assume, these are not things that
anyone has seen or proven to exist: They are useful constructs.
They work for the moment, let us do science, and hopefully will
lead to better, more useful constructs. We use them "as if" they
were true. He called these partial truths fictions.
Vaihinger, and Adler, pointed out that we use these fictions in
day to day living as well. We behave as if we knew the world
would be here tomorrow, as if we were sure what good and bad are
all about, as if everything we see is as we see it, and so on.
Adler called this fictional finalism. You can understand the
phrase most easily if you think about an example: Many people
behave as if there were a heaven or a hell in their personal
future. Of course, there may be a heaven or a hell, but most of
us don't think of this as a proven fact. That makes it a "fiction"
in Vaihinger's and Adler's sense of the word. And finalism
refers to the teleology of it: The fiction lies in the future,
and yet influences our behavior today.
Adler added that, at the center of each of our lifestyles, there
sits one of these fictions, an important one about who we are
and where we are going.
Social interest
Second in importance only to striving for perfection is the idea
of social interest or social feeling (originally called
Gemeinschaftsgefuhl or "community feeling"). In keeping with his
holism, it is easy to see that anyone "striving for perfection"
can hardly do so without considering his or her social
environment. As social animals, we simply don't exist, much less
thrive, without others, and even the most resolute people-hater
forms that hatred in a social context!
Adler felt that social concern was not simply inborn, nor just
learned, but a combination of both: It is based on an innate
disposition, but it has to be nurtured to survive. That it is to
some extent innate is shown by the way babies and small children
often show sympathy for others without having been taught to do
so. Notice how, when one baby in a nursery begins to cry, they
all begin to cry. Or how, when we walk into a room where people
are laughing, we ourselves begin to smile.
And yet, right along with the examples of how generous little
children can be to others, we have examples of how selfish and
cruel they can be. Although we instinctively seem to know that
what hurts him can hurt me, and vice versa, we also
instinctively seem to know that, if we have to choose between it
hurting him and it hurting me, we'll take "hurting him" every
time! So the tendency to empathize must be supported by parents
and the culture at large. Even if we disregard the possibilities
of conflict between my needs and yours, empathy involves feeling
the pain of others, an in a hard world, that can quickly become
overwhelming. Much easier to just "toughen up" and ignore that
unpleasant empathy -- unless society steps in on empathy's
behalf!
One misunderstanding Adler wanted to avoid was the idea that
social interest was somehow another version of extraversion.
Americans in particular tend to see social concern as a matter
of being open and friendly and slapping people on the back and
calling them by their first names. Some people may indeed
express their social concern this way; But other people just use
that kind of behavior to further their own ends. Adler meant
social concern or feeling not in terms of particular social
behaviors, but in the much broader sense of caring for family,
for community, for society, for humanity, even for life. Social
concern is a matter of being useful to others.
On the other hand, a lack of social concern is, for Adler, the
very definition of mental ill-health: All failures -- neurotics,
psychotics, criminals, drunkards, problem children, suicides,
perverts, and prostitutes -- are failures because they are
lacking in social interest.... Their goal of success is a goal
of personal superiority, and their triumphs have meaning only to
themselves.
Inferiority
Here we are, all of us, "pulled" towards fulfillment, perfection,
self-actualization. And yet some of us -- the failures -- end up
terribly unfulfilled, baldly imperfect, and far from self-actualized.
And all because we lack social interest, or, to put it in the
positive form, because we are too self-interested. So what makes
so many of us self-interested?
Adler says it's a matter of being overwhelmed by our inferiority.
If you are moving along, doing well, feeling competent, you can
afford to think of others. If you are not, if life is getting
the best of you, then your attentions become increasingly
focussed on yourself.
Obviously, everyone suffers from inferiority in one form or
another. For example, Adler began his theoretical work
considering organ inferiority, that is, the fact that each of us
has weaker, as well as stronger, parts of our anatomy or
physiology. Some of us are born with heart murmurs, or develop
heart problems early in life; Some have weak lungs, or kidneys,
or early liver problems; Some of us stutter or lisp; Some have
diabetes, or asthma, or polio; Some have weak eyes, or poor
hearing, or a poor musculature; Some of us have innate
tendencies to being heavy, others to being skinny; Some of us
are retarded, some of us are deformed; Some of us are terribly
tall or terribly short; And so on and so on.
Adler noted that many people respond to these organic
inferiorities with compensation. They make up for their
deficiencies in some way: The inferior organ can be strengthened
and even become stronger than it is in others; Or other organs
can be overdeveloped to take up the slack; Or the person can
psychologically compensate for the organic problem by developing
certain skills or even certain personality styles. There are, as
you well know, many examples of people who overcame great
physical odds to become what those who are better endowed
physically wouldn't even dream of!
Sadly, there are also many people who cannot handle their
difficulties, and live lives of quiet despair. I would guess
that our optimistic, up-beat society serious underestimates
their numbers.
But Adler soon saw that this is only part of the picture. Even
more people have psychological inferiorities. Some of as are
told that we are dumb, or ugly, or weak. Some of us come to
believe that we are just plain no good. In school, we are tested
over and over, and given grades that tell us we aren't as good
as the next person. Or we are demeaned for our pimples or our
bad posture and find ourselves without friends or dates. Or we
are forced into basketball games, where we wait to see which
team will be stuck with us. In these examples, it's not a matter
of true organic inferiority -- we are not really retarded or
deformed or weak -- but we learn to believe that we are. Again,
some compensate by becoming good at what we feel inferior about.
More compensate by becoming good at something else, but
otherwise retaining our sense of inferiority. And some just
never develop any self esteem at all.
If the preceding hasn't hit you personally yet, Adler also noted
an even more general form of inferiority: The natural
inferiority of children. all children are, by nature, smaller,
weaker, less socially and intellectually competent, than the
adults around them. Adler suggested that, if we look at
children's games, toys, and fantasies, they tend to have one
thing in common: The desire to grow up, to be big, to be an
adult. This kind of compensation is really identical with
striving for perfection! Many children, however, are left with
the feeling that other people will always be better than they
are.
If you are overwhelmed by the forces of inferiority -- whether
it is your body hurting, the people around you holding you in
contempt, or just the general difficulties of growing up -- you
develop an inferiority complex. Looking back on my own childhood,
I can see several sources for later inferiority complexes:
Physically, I've tended to be heavy, with some real "fat boy"
stages along the way; Also, because I was born in Holland, I
didn't grow up with the skills of baseball, football, and
basketball in my genes; Finally, my artistically talented
parents often left me -- unintentionally -- with the feeling
that I'd never be as good as they were. So, as I grew up, I
became shy and withdrawn, and concentrated on the only thing I
was good at, school. It took a long time for me to realize my
self-worth.
If you weren't "super-nerd," you may have had one of the most
common inferiority complexes I've come across: "Math phobia!"
Perhaps it started because you could never remember what seven
times eight was. Every year, there was some topic you never
quite got the hang of. Every year, you fell a little further
behind. And then you hit the crisis point: Algebra. How could
you be expected to know what "x" is when you still didn't know
what seven times eight was?
Many, many people truly believe that they are not meant to do
math, that they are missing that piece of their brains or
something. I'd like to tell you here and now that anyone can do
math, if they are taught properly and when they are really
ready. That aside, you've got to wonder how many people have
given up being scientists, teachers, business people, or even
going to college, because of this inferiority complex.
But the inferiority complex is not just a little problem, it's a
neurosis, meaning it's a life-size problem. You become shy and
timid, insecure, indecisive, cowardly, submissive, compliant,
and so on. You begin to rely on people to carry you along, even
manipulating them into supporting you: "You think I'm smart /
pretty / strong / sexy / good, don't you?" Eventually, you
become a drain on them, and you may find yourself by yourself.
Nobody can take all that self-centered whining for long!
There is another way in which people respond to inferiority
besides compensation and the inferiority complex: You can also
develop a superiority complex. The superiority complex involves
covering up your inferiority by pretending to be superior. If
you feel small, one way to feel big is to make everyone else
feel even smaller! Bullies, braggarts, and petty dictators
everywhere are the prime example. More subtle examples are the
people who are given to attention-getting dramatics, the ones
who feel powerful when they commit crimes, and the ones who put
others down for their gender, race, ethnic origins, religious
beliefs, sexual orientation, weight, height, etc. etc. Even more
subtle still are the people who hide their feelings of
worthlessness in the delusions of power afforded by alcohol and
drugs.
Psychological types
Although all neurosis is, for Adler, a matter of insufficient
social interest, he did note that three types could be
distinguished based on the different levels of energy they
involved:
The first is the ruling type. They are, from childhood on,
characterized by a tendency to be rather aggressive and dominant
over others. Their energy -- the strength of their striving
after personal power -- is so great that they tend to push over
anything or anybody who gets in their way. The most energetic of
them are bullies and sadists; somewhat less energetic ones hurt
others by hurting themselves, and include alcoholics, drug
addicts, and suicides.
The second is the leaning type. They are sensitive people who
have developed a shell around themselves which protects them,
but they must rely on others to carry them through life's
difficulties. They have low energy levels and so become
dependent. When overwhelmed, they develop what we typically
think of as neurotic symptoms: phobias, obsessions and
compulsions, general anxiety, hysteria, amnesias, and so on,
depending on individual details of their lifestyle.
The third type is the avoiding type. These have the lowest
levels of energy and only survive by essentially avoiding life
-- especially other people. When pushed to the limits, they tend
to become psychotic, retreating finally into their own personal
worlds.
There is a fourth type as well: the socially useful type. This
is the healthy person, one who has both social interest and
energy. Note that without energy, you can't really have social
interest, since you wouldn't be able to actually do anything for
anyone!
Adler noted that his four types looked very much like the four
types proposed by the ancient Greeks. They, too, noticed that
some people are always sad, others always angry, and so on. But
they attributed these temperaments (from the same root as
temperature) to the relative presence of four bodily fluids
called humors.
If you had too much yellow bile, you would be choleric (hot and
dry) and angry all the time. The choleric is, roughly, the
ruling type.
If you had too much phlegm, you would be phlegmatic (cold and
wet) and be sluggish. This is roughly the leaning type.
If you had too much black bile -- and we don't know what the
Greeks were referring to here -- you would be melancholy (cold
and dry) and tend to be sad constantly. This is roughly the
avoiding type.
And, if you had a lot of blood relative to the other humors, you
be in a good humor, sanguine (warm and moist). This naturally
cheerful and friendly person represents the socially useful
type.
One word of warning about Adler's types: Adler believed very
strongly that each person is a unique individual with his or her
own unique lifestyle. The idea of types is, for him, only a
heuristic device, meaning a useful fiction, not an absolute
reality!
Childhood
Adler, like Freud, saw personality or lifestyle as something
established quite early in life. In fact, the prototype of your
lifestyle tends to be fixed by about five years old. New
experiences, rather than change that prototype, tend to be
interpreted in terms of the prototype, "force fit," in other
words, into preconceived notions, just like new acquaintances
tend to get "force fit" into our stereotypes.
Adler felt that there were three basic childhood situations that
most contribute to a faulty lifestyle. The first is one we've
spoken of several times: organ inferiorities, as well as early
childhood diseases. They are what he called "overburdened," and
if someone doesn't come along to draw their attention to others,
they will remain focussed on themselves. Most will go through
life with a strong sense of inferiority; A few will
overcompensate with a superiority complex. Only with the
encouragement of loved ones will some truly compensate.
The second is pampering. Many children are taught, by the
actions of others, that they can take without giving. Their
wishes are everyone else's commands. This may sound like a
wonderful situation, until you realize that the pampered child
fails in two ways: First, he doesn't learn to do for himself,
and discovers later that he is truly inferior; And secondly, he
doesn't learn any other way to deal with others than the giving
of commands. And society responds to pampered people in only one
way: hatred.
The third is neglect. A child who is neglected or abused learns
what the pampered child learns, but learns it in a far more
direct manner: They learn inferiority because they are told and
shown every day tat they are of no value; They learn selfishness
because they are taught to trust no one. If you haven't known
love, you don't develop a capacity for it later. We should note
that the neglected child includes not only orphans and the
victims of abuse, but the children whose parents are never
there, and the ones raised in a rigid, authoritarian manner.
Birth order
Adler must be credited as the first theorist to include not only
a child's mother and father and other adults as early influence
on the child, but the child's brothers and sisters as well. His
consideration of the effects of siblings and the order in which
they were born is probably what Adler is best-known for. I have
to warn you, though, that Adler considered birth-order another
one of those heuristic ideas -- useful fictions -- that
contribute to understanding people, but must be not be taken too
seriously.
The only child is more likely than others to be pampered, with
all the ill results we've discussed. After all, the parents of
the only child have put all their eggs in one basket, so to
speak, and are more likely to take special care -- sometimes
anxiety-filled care -- of their pride and joy. If the parents
are abusive, on the other hand, the only child will have to bear
that abuse alone.
The first child begins life as an only child, with all the
attention to him- or herself. Sadly, just as things are getting
comfortable, the second child arrives and "dethrones" the first.
At first, the child may battle for his or her lost position. He
or she might try acting like the baby -- after all, it seems to
work for the baby! -- only to be rebuffed and told to grow up.
Some become disobedient and rebellious, others sullen and
withdrawn. Adler believes that first children are more likely
than nay other to become problem children. More positively,
first children are often precocious. They tend to be relatively
solitary and more conservative than the other children in the
family.
The second child is in a very different situation: He or she has
the first child as a sort of "pace-setter," and tends to become
quite competitive, constantly trying to surpass the older child.
They often succeed, but many feel as if the race is never done,
and they tend to dream of constant running without getting
anywhere. Other "middle" children will tend to be similar to the
second child, although each may focus on a different
"competitor."
The youngest child is likely to be the most pampered in a family
with more than one child. After all, he or she is the only one
who is never dethroned! And so youngest children are the second
most likely source of problem children, just behind first
children. On the other hand, the youngest may also feel
incredible inferiority, with everyone older and "therefore"
superior. But, with all those "pace-setters" ahead, the youngest
can also be driven to exceed all of them.
Who is a first, second, or youngest child isn't as obvious as it
might seem. If there is a long stretch between children, they
may not see themselves and each other the same way as if they
were closer together. There are eight years between my first and
second daughter and three between the second and the third: That
would make my first daughter an only child, my second a first
child, and my third the second and youngest! And if some of the
children are boys and some girls, it makes a difference as well.
A second child who is a girl might not take her older brother as
someone to compete with; A boy in a family of girls may feel
more like the only child; And so on. As with everything in
Adler's system, birth order is to be understood in the context
of the individual's own special circumstances.
Diagnosis
In order to help you to discover the "fictions" your lifestyle
is based upon, Adler would look at a great variety of things --
your birth-order position, for example. First, he might examine
you and your medical history for any possible organic roots to
your problem. A serious illness, for example, may have side
effects that closely resemble neurotic and psychotic symptoms.
In your very first session with you, he might ask for your
earliest childhood memory. He is not so much looking for the
truth here as for an indication of that early prototype of your
present lifestyle. If your earliest memory involves security and
a great deal of attention, that might indicate pampering; If you
recall some aggressive competition with your older brother, that
might suggest the strong strivings of a second child and the
"ruling" type of personality; If your memory involves neglect
and hiding under the sink, it might mean severe inferiority and
avoidance; And so on.
He might also ask about any childhood problems you may have had:
Bad habits involving eating or the bathroom might indicate ways
in which you controlled your parents; Fears, such as a fear of
the dark or of being left alone, might suggest pampering;
Stuttering is likely to mean that speech was associated with
anxiety; Overt aggression and stealing may be signs of a
superiority complex; Daydreaming, isolation, laziness, and lying
may be various ways of avoiding facing one's inferiorities.
Like Freud and Jung, dreams (and daydreams) were important to
Adler. He took a more direct approach to them, though: Dreams
are an expression of your style of life and, far from
contradicting your daytime feelings, are unified with your
conscious life. Usually, they reflect the goals you have and the
problems you face in reaching them. If you can't remember any
dreams, Adler isn't put off: Go ahead and fantasize right then
and there. Your fantasies will reflect your lifestyle just as
well.
Adler would also pay attention to how you express yourself: Your
posture, the way you shake hands, the gestures you use, how you
move, your "body language," as we say today. He notes that
pampered people often lean against something! Even your sleep
postures may contribute some insight: A person who sleeps in the
fetal position with the covers over his or her head is clearly
different from one who sprawls over the entire bed completely
uncovered!
He would also want to know the exogenous factors, the events
that triggered the symptoms that concern you. He gives a number
of common triggers: Sexual problems, like uncertainty, guilt,
the first time, impotence, and so on; The problems women face,
such as pregnancy and childbirth and he onset and end of
menstruation; Your love life, dating, engagement, marriage, and
divorce; Your work life, including school, exams, career
decisions, and the job itself; And mortal danger or the loss of
a loved one.
Last, and not least, Adler was open to the less rational and
scientific, more art-like side of diagnosis: He suggested we not
ignore empathy, intuition, and just plain guess-work!
Therapy
There are considerable differences between Adler's therapy and
Freud's: First, Adler preferred to have everyone sitting up and
talking face to face. Further, he went to great lengths to avoid
appearing too authoritarian. In fact, he advised that the
therapist never allow the patient to force him into the role of
an authoritarian figure, because that allows the patient to play
some of the same games he or she is likely to have played many
times before: The patient may set you up as a savior, only to
attack you when you inevitably reveal your humanness. By pulling
you down, they feel as if they are raising themselves, with
their neurotic lifestyles, up.
This is essentially the explanation Adler gave for resistance:
When a patient forgets appointments, comes in late, demands
special favors, or generally becomes stubborn and uncooperative,
it is not, as Freud thought, a matter of repression. Rather,
resistance is just a sign of the patient's lack of courage to
give up their neurotic lifestyle.
The patient must come to understand the nature of his or her
lifestyle and its roots in self-centered fictions. This
understanding or insight cannot be forced: If you just tell
someone "look, here is your problem!" he or she will only pull
away from you and look for ways of bolstering their present
fictions. Instead, A patient must be brought into such a state
of feeling that he likes to listen, and wants to understand.
Only then can he be influenced to live what he has understood.
(Ansbacher and Ansbacher, 1956, p. 335.) It is the patient, not
the therapist, who is ultimately responsible for curing him- or
herself.
Finally, the therapist must encourage the patient, which means
awakening his or her social interest, and the energy that goes
with it. By developing a genuine human relationship with the
patient, the therapist provides the basic form of social
interest, which the patient can then transfer to others.
Discussion
Although Adler's theory may be less interesting than Freud's,
with its sexuality, or Jung's, with its mythology, it has
probably struck you as the most common-sensical of the three.
Students generally like Adler and his theory. In fact, quite a
few personality theorists like him, too. Maslow, for example,
once said that, the older he gets, the more right Adler seems.
If you have some knowledge of Carl Rogers' brand of therapy, you
may have noticed how similar it is to Adler's. And a number of
students of personality theories have noted that the theorists
called Neo-Freudians -- Horney, Fromm, and Sullivan -- should
really have been called Neo-Adlerians.
And so the "positives" of Adler's theory don't really need to be
listed: His clear descriptions of people's complaints, his
straight-forward and common-sense interpretations of their
problems, his simple theoretical structure, his trust and even
affection for the common person, all make his theory both
comfortable and highly influential.
Problems
Criticisms of Adler tend to involve the issue of whether or not,
or to what degree, his theory is scientific. The mainstream of
psychology today is experimentally oriented, which means, among
other things, that the concepts a theory uses must be measurable
and manipulable. This in turn means that an experimental
orientation prefers physical or behavioral variables. Adler, as
you saw, uses basic concepts that are far from physical and
behavioral: Striving for perfection? How do you measure that? Or
compensation? Or feelings of inferiority? Or social interest?
The experimental method also makes a basic assumption: That all
things operate in terms of cause and effect. Adler would
certainly agree that physical things do so, but he would
adamantly deny that people do! Instead, he takes the
teleological route, that people are "determined" by their
ideals, goals, values, "final fictions." Teleology takes the
necessity out of things: A person doesn't have to respond a
certain way to a certain circumstance; A person has choices to
make; A person creates his or her own personality or lifestyle.
From the experimental perspective, these things are illusions
that a scientist, even a personality theorist, dare not give in
to.
Even if you are open to the teleological approach, though, there
are criticisms you can make regarding how scientific Adler's
theory is: Many of the details of his theory are too anecdotal,
that is, are true in particular cases, but don't necessarily
have the generality Adler seems to claim for them. A first child
(even broadly defined) doesn't necessarily feel dethroned, nor a
second child necessarily feel competitive, for example.
Adler could, however, respond to these criticisms very easily:
First, didn't we just finish saying that, if you accept
teleology, nothing about human personality is necessary. And
secondly, didn't he go to great lengths to explain his ideas
about fictional finalism? All of his concepts are useful
constructs, not absolute truths, and science is just a matter of
creating increasingly useful constructs. So if you have better
ideas, let's hear them!
Readings
If you are interested in learning more about Alfred Adler's
theory, go straight to Ansbacher and Ansbacher's The Individual
Psychology of Alfred Adler. They take selections from his
writings, organize them, and add running commentary. It
introduces all of his ideas in a very readable fashion. His own
books include Understanding Human Nature, Problems of Neurosis,
The Practice and Theory of Individual Psychology, and Social
Interest: A Challenge to Mankind. Anotther collection by
Ansbacher and Ansbacher (Superiority and Social Interest)
includes a Biography by Carl Furtmuller
You can find early and recent work by Adler and others in
English in The International Journal of Individual Psychology.
Copyright 1997, 2006 C. George Boeree.
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